The children of tomorrow

It has taken the feat of a 4 year old boy- Budhia Singh, to bring to light, the huge hidden talent this nation could have.

This kid’s example can be taken as something to reckon with, in a country where the prevalent norm among all those parents who can afford education, is to curb all activities but "Padhayi-Likhai" especially in the "crucial" years of schooling. Maybe you have a budding sportsman, singer, designer ...etc amongst you. Would you even know? Do you even care? I feel its time this Nation awakened to the fact that, to finish an engineering degree from one of the many colleges and to end up as yet another software engineer is not exactly "utopia". If children are let to explore their talents along with their education at school, they might have the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding their future.(read wide range of career options) Not all are born mathematicians and they may never actual enjoy their work or measure up to the huge expectations set by family and peers. Ultimately this will result in a drop of self esteem in the young minds and the regret of never having tried something they believe they are good at, will stay with them till the end. Is it worth loosing this one life over all that pent up regret/guilt of never having explored alternatives? Many of you might argue that this “freedom” might result in “bad” endings. I am not surprised, after all we are the “risk averse” Indians who live and die by what the society expects out of us. But I think more important than “bad endings” is to avoid a life full of statements beginning with “If only”.

If you have not tried then you have already lost the battle and reconciled to a non-descript life.

The most important thing is that children have come of age and it is high time parents recognize this and give them more leeway in taking their own decisions. You may impart advice and even set an example of what you believe is the best but the ultimate decision should rest with the child who like you is individual and who just like you has the right to decide.

I found this poem by Kahlil Gibranand(fell in love with it instantly) and was inspired to write this today. Do take some time out to read and understand this piece.

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and he bends you with his might that his arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.


Expressions said...

A really inspiring read which makes u think if u want to give atleast ur children the right to choose a life of their choice.....But it only sets me thinking...i am yet to decide for or against it....

Raaga said...

Mindsets need to change... it will take a long time. But I am hopeful... that things will change. That people will begin to realize that there is more to life than engineering and medicine. That my value will not be considered any less merely because I didn't go to IIT. My folks gave me the freedom to plot my graph... and that's brought me to where I am today. :)

I'd like to know what you're thinking.

kartyc said...

but you arent really pursuing what you do write well...and i am not talking about the keep doing the whole day...think about it..

Expressions said...

What I meant was---I may have to think twice before I agree with all the decisions that my child may make....Some of them may not be feasible ones, wherein I may have to make her/him understand things in the broader sense....Still I will not put my foot down on any of their decisions...the final call will be theirs always

Caffeinism said...

@ kartyc- Firstly a thank you.Hmm... all I can say is life does not usually give us second chances, that is why we have to be very careful and try and explore many alternatives before taking irrevokable decisions.

Goutham said...

I agree, caffeinism writes well.

What is all this abt life giving second chances and yada yada yada.. If you like writing and if you have something to nice to write about, I think you can still write part-time. Writing need not be your career. Just plan to write something in say 10 years. One page a week. How difficult can that be?

Debaditya said...

hey ..have u seen IQBAL?
Nice one!!!
u'll find some answers to ur post!!

Caffeinism said...

@ g'man- Agree and I have finally figured it out- You hate my philosophical gyan! ;-)

@ deba- No I have not seen that one.:((

Raaga said...

My thoughts... raise your kids well. Give them not just the freedom, but also the confidence, to make their own decisions. Let them know that you're there to catch them if they fall... but not there to say, "I told you so". If you have made a life for yourself, have faith that your child can get out there and make more than just a living :)

Goutham said...

To me it seemed like you were looking for an excuse not to do something. That is all I was hinting at. No, I do not hate you philosophical gyan or anything else.

Neeti said...

Engineers and doctors (science) cannot improve the mind of the country; though they can maybe develop the infrastructure. Only arts will actually bring a country forward in all aspects.

- i read this somewhere a while back. i dont rem where, but got reminded after seeing your post.

- these days people dont "think" and make their own opinion to decide what they WANT to do really.
They just follow the HERD; and do what everyone is doing. WHERE IS THE ORIGINALITY and the creativity???

Neeti said...

@ expressions

how can a decision "not be feasible"???

The decision may not lead to the result (that is in your mind); but thats another thing. I am sure you cannot even start to imaging all that your child is seeing in his/her head!

When the mind has the capcity to percieve something; means it can be done.

Caffeinism said...

@ dusty- Yes a very good question.
@ expressions- sometimes you have to break free and think"out of the box".

Expressions said...

The list of probable "not be feasible" thoughts
-Smoking or using drugs is cool
-Insulting and rebuking the weaklings(Especially common among school children)
-That they can get away with anything cause their parents are always there as backup
-That infatuation is love
And much more....These are wrong from whomsoever perspective one may look at them.Letting children pursue life at such free will, I feel is a slip in my duty as a parent
@ Caffeinism
In continuation to my response to DUSTY, I guess thinking "out of the box" will also not justify such decisions on the child's part.

Caffeinism said...

@ expressions- That is why you give your child all the backing and knowledge to think and take the right desicion.That is where your duty ends.If the child is not able to do so...then may be you have failed in inculcating those values.
In your words the child should be able to choose and decide against Abuse(all kinds)If they choose it inspite of your "gyan" then you have failed.
And how can you decide if your child is in love or infactuated?!? Sorry I disagree strongly.

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